Monday, July 30, 2007

Name Change in Monroe County Pennsylvania

Getting your name changed isn't as easy as filling out a form. You actually have to draft legal documents and go before a judge. I can't give legal advice but I believe I can tell you what I did. Just remember, this is my experience not legal advice.

I have legal benefits from work. They pay a percentage up to a maximum. I looked up a local lawyer in the network and made an appointment. She wanted almost $900 to do it. Even with my discount it was a lot of money for what seemed like a straight forward procedure. I thought about paying it and I thought about trying a different lawyer but I decided to DIY it. Or as they say in the legal business, I did it pro se.

First I got "The Equality Advocates Guide to Changing Your Name and Identity Documents in Pennsylvania".

Equity Advocates Pennsylvania
1211 Chestnut Street, Ste. 605
Philadelphia, PA 19107
215-731-1447 ext. 15
1-866-LGBT-LAW
www.equalitypa.org

This document is essential for the do it yourself-er. It is your step by step guide to changing your name. I wouldn't have been able to do it without this guide. Its a very good guide but its written for the Philly area and every county is a little different. The Pennsylvania law is the same, of course. Where you go for finger prints, where you go to file a petition and where you advertise your name change are different.

I suggest getting a file folder or two to keep all of your correspondence, petition, duplicate copies, driving directions etc. The paperwork tends to build up. If you unexpectedly need to refer to something or produce an extra copy its no big deal to find.

Fingerprints

The first thing I did was to get my fingerprints done. They don't have finger print cards at the state police barracks for name changes. You have to stop at the court house to get your card. I went to the Prothonotary/Clerk of Court in the Monroe county courthouse room 303 to get it. I asked them for a finger print card for a name change. The clerk reached under the counter and produced a card. That was easy.

Next step was to get my prints taken by the state police. Since I was on Rt 80, instead of going home I decided to drive to the Fern Ridge state police barracks. I called them on my cell phone to make sure they could do it. Fortunately, I had my handy file folder with directions and phone number. I believe there are only two barracks in Monroe county that do finger printing. This is the list I used to find a Barracks, http://www.psp.state.pa.us/PSP/Lib/psp/PDF/Fingerprint_locations.pdf.

Fern Ridge Station HC #1 Box 1327, Blakeslee (SR 115, ¼ mile north of I-80), Exit
Monroe 284 (570) 646-2271 Mon. 4pm-8pm; Tue. thru Thurs. 8am-12pm

Swiftwater Station HC 1 Box 121, Swiftwater (SR 611, 3 miles north of I-80, Exit 299) (570) 839-7701 Mon. 4pm-8pm; Tue. thru Thurs. 8am-12pm; Wed. 4pm-9pm


I was only able to find Blakeslee with Google Maps. I was able to figure out the rest from the address above. Still, it took me a couple of passes in the car to find the barracks. Its on a hill behind the hotel.

They knew why I was changing my name. I'm always ready for a confrontation when I have to come out but they were very nice there. The officer that took my prints was very courteous and made me feel at ease. We joked about how easily the Mythbusters were able to circumvent fingerprint based security systems.

They used a machine to take my prints. Its kind of like a photo copier with a small glass and a monitor. After entering some basic information like who you are and where you live they wet the glass then roll your fingers over it. When they're done, images of your prints and the info they entered are printed on your finger print card.

Legal Documents

Next step was to write the legal documents. I wrote a petition, name verification, decree and order for hearing. Writing them was very easy. I used the templates in the Equality Advocates guide. I even found a Word document template for legal documents. If you use their guide I don't think you'll have any problem. It helps if you have access to a computer.

Filing the Petition

I took my fingerprint card, petition, name verification, decree and order for hearing to the Prothonotary/Clerk of Court in the Monroe county courthouse room 303. Same place you got the finger print card. The filing fee was $26. There was a bit of confusion about the fee. They first thought it was about $60. In any case, bring cash. They don't accept checks or credit cards.

Again, everyone knew why I was there but they were very professional and friendly. Pretty much the opposite of what I expected. Another step was painlessly checked off the list.

The Prothonotary/Clerk of Court sends your prints to the state police. After the state police does whatever it is they do with your prints they send something back to the Clerk of Court. The Clerk of Court will then give you a court date. On my "Order" they requested:

"Petitioner shall also provide a duplicate copy of the petition and a set of fingerprints to the Prothonotary pursuant to 54 Pa.C.S.A 702 as amended."

When I mailed the documents to them along with a copy of the order they sent it all back saying they need the original prints to file a petition. --"Cocks head and makes a questioning sound, Arrro?" I figured I'd take duplicates and originals to the hearing. Time was short and I didn't trust them or the mail with the originals.

Advertising

You need to wait until you get your court date before you can advertise the name change. They need information from the Order to appear in the advertisement. As soon as I got my court date, Order, in the mail I called up an advertising agency to advertise my name change. That was one thing I was not going to do myself and I was glad I didn't. I used

William J. Mansfield, Inc.
Legal Advertising,
610-254-9980.

For $20 they advertised in the Pocono Record and Monroe Legal Reporter. The papers charged $78.28 and $75 respectively. The total due WJM Advertising was $173.28. The $20 was well worth not having to fool around with the papers.

I got the proof of publication only a few days before the court date. I called them a week before the court date to make sure everything was OK. I think they wanted a check before they sent out the proof of publication but they didn't have a total when I first talked to them. You may want to check on them and send them a check earlier than I did.

Lien and Judgment

I used an out of state company I found on the internet to do this. They charged $160 for the service. They did a search and sent me two very official original copies swearing there are no liens or judgments against me. That wasn't a good idea. The judge questioned how an out of state company could do this since all the records are by county and they would have to search the county records. Good news is he let it slide.

I'm clueless about how this is actually done. If someone could send me a note saying how they did it or how one would go about doing a search in Monroe county or even in general I'd appreciate it.

The Hearing

I got to the court house early. I wore a nice dress but I should have worn something more business like. Black skirt, heals would have been more appropriate.

Since I was there early I sat in the hallway and waited. The bailiff wandered by a few times. He looked as bored as I was. He asked who I was and checked his sheet. Then nodded.

I saw the judge walk past and go in his "special" door at the other end of the court room. I thought that was a bit pompous and funny since there was no one in the court room. Shortly after a woman & her son showed up and the bailiff showed them in. From the bits of conversation I heard the son was also changing his name. I figured it was a divorce & re-marriage thing. Humm... Must be name change day.

As soon as they left the bailiff showed me in. The bailiff became my best friend there. I looked to him to show me where to sit, when to go to the stand, when to leave the court room and probably some other things I don't remember.

The judge asked me if I had the Proof of Publication since I hadn't filed that with the clerk. I gave it to him along with the Lien & Judgment search. He questioned the Lien & Judgement search, see above.

I said in the petition there was a copy of my birth certificate attached. Apparently I forgot to attach it. I handed the bailiff a copy out of my handy folder to give to the judge.

Then the judge asked me to the stand & get sworn in. After swearing in he asked me to make a statement. I repeated in my own words why I wanted a name change. He then asked if the Decree attached to my petition was what I wanted him to sign. I said, yes. The judge said he would sign it and I would get a copy in the mail in a few days.

I said thank you. The bailiff showed me out and that was it. Maybe 15 min in court, tops. Again, everyone was professional. The gender change was just a matter of fact thing. No big deal to them. ... at least not in front of me.

Filing fee: $26
Advertising: $173.28
Lien & Judgement Search: $160
Name Change: Priceless

Wednesday, May 23, 2007

Its dawn and its going to be a beautiful sunny day

I'm off Welbutrin, Effexor and Sudafed PE. I feel like its been raining for years and the rain is gone. The gloom is gone. Its dawn and its going to be a beautiful sunny day. I can't ever remember feeling this good. I also started walking and hiking. I think that also has something to do with it. I have tons of energy.

Wednesday, April 25, 2007

Lets start from the beginning - The school years

When I was five or six years old, my mother would say to her friends, "Doesn't he have pretty eye lashes and hair? He should have been a girl." I'd always think to myself, "Yea, I wish I *was* a girl." That's my earliest memory of being transgendered.

During my grade school years I only remember one thing that suggests I was thinking I was the wrong gender. The "Girls are made from sugar and spice and everything nice..." rhyme. I always pictured myself being made of sugar and spice. But for some reason I was a boy. My gender identity was dominated by the girls vs. boys cold war. Like two different races. Two different types of humans. I think if someone had said, "Take this blue pill to continue being a boy or take this pink pill to become a girl" I would have taken the blue pill. 'cause boys rule and girls drool. Besides everyone knows girls have cooties.

I had learned that my gender role was male. Back then there was no such thing as a transsexual. Transsexual has the word sex in it so it didn't exist outside of academia. While I wished that I was a girl there was nothing I could do about it. There were girls and there were boys. There wasn't a restroom for a third gender. Society had done its job. I was a boy and there was nothing I could do about it.

In junior high school I started noticing what the girls were wearing. Sure, I was thinking the girls looked sexy but I also wanted to wear the outfits. I had a mental picture of me being female and wearing female clothes. I wished that I could wear female things. I should be able to wear the same things. I've come to understand that in my mind I was a girl so I should be wearing what girls wore. Back then cross-dressing just confused me so I told myself I was male there is nothing I could or should do about it. This is when I started getting angry and jealous at the girls for just being girls. It pissed me off that they could wear pretty things and I couldn't.

High school was a lot like JR high except that I thought about sex more. I tried on a few of my mothers clothes but it didn't look right. Clothing didn't make me female. All cross-dressing did was emphasize the fact that I was male and that there was probably something wrong with me. I didn't want to be a freak so I made the subconscious decision to be "normal". No cross-dressing and no more thoughts of being female. Normal people don't think like that.

I loved reading books in high school. They were a great way to escape the real world. In one science fiction book there was an alien race that had an interesting life cycle. They started out as non-fertile males became fertile males then switched to fertile females and ended as non-fertile females. Man! I wished I was a member of that race. I would be totally normal. ...and on schedule.

Transgendered'wise nothing much changed in College. I was now angry at women for being women instead of being angry at girls for being girls. Several posts worth of incidents and experiences occurred while attending college but nothing new relating to my feelings about being female.

So what have we learned in the skool years?
  1. I discovered I was transgendered at an early age.
  2. I had no clue that I was transgendered or even that such a thing existed.
  3. I think I took the blue pill :p
  4. Society forces you into a gender role. Having been born with a penis I was forced to be a male.
  5. Cross-dressing confused me. I didn't understand why I would want to cross-dress. The answer is that my female mind said I should be wearing female clothes.
  6. I was jealous of women simply for being women.
  7. Cross-dressing didn't make me female. Instead it emphasized that I was male.
  8. I had to hide the fact that I wasn't "normal".

Tuesday, April 10, 2007

Faith of the Heart: Star Trek: Enterprise (Theme Song)



Also my theme song. Why? Not because I cry every time I hear it. Lots of things make me cry. More like, Holy Sh**! I came all this way on my own! No one to help but my dogs. I must have faith of the heart. Last I remember humming was "The Long And Winding Road".


AS HEARD ON SHOW

It’s been a long road - getting from there to here.
It’s been a long time, but my time is finally near

And I will see my dream come alive at last. I will touch the sky.
And they’re not gonna hold me down no more
No, they’re not gonna change my mind
Cause I got faith of the heart
I’m going where my heart will take me
I got faith to believe I can do anything.
I got strength of the soul and no one’s gonna bend or break me
I can reach any star. I got faith. Faith of the heart.


COMPLETE LYRICS

"The magic of believing is this: if we really believe in ourselves, our heart will take us to the highest plateau of personal success. Nothing will stop us as long as we have faith in our hearts."

It’s been a long road - Getting from there to here.
It’s been a long time, but my time is finally near.

And I can feel the change in the wind right now
Nothing’s in my way
And they’re not gonna hold me down no more
No, they’re not gonna hold me now

Chorus:
Cause I got faith of the heart
I’m going where my heart will take me
I got faith to believe. I can do anything.
I got strength of the soul
And no one’s gonna bend or break me
I can reach any star. I got faith. Faith of the heart


Enterprise
Faith Of the Heart written by Diane Warren, sung by British opera star Russell Watson
This song was first featured in the film Patch Adams (performed by Rod Stewart Original Air Dates: 2001 - present (UPN)

Sunday, April 8, 2007

First female orgasm

W00T! I had my first female orgasm last night. I couldn't sleep and it was like 3 AM. I wasn't horny at all. I'm on about 1/2 the estrogen I should be because I don't want to get horny while healing. Anyway, I thought maybe taking a "natural sleeping pill" would put me to sleep. I was very very surprised that with very little effort I was able to have an orgasm. It didn't put me to sleep but I'm almost excited that I can cum. OK. I'm a little excited. :)

Happy light


Two weeks before I went to see Jerry for the final time I got my SAD, Seasonal Affected Disorder, light. OMG! What a difference. I have tons more energy after using it for only one week. I used to lay on the sofa and sleep almost all day. Now I can only lay down for about 1/2 hr. before having to get up & do something.

Its a BlueMax 70W desk lamp from www.fullspectrumsolutions.com. It cost me $160 and is worth every penny. Of course, my medical plan wouldn't pay for it. That's just bullshit. $160 is an insignificant sum compared to the work AT&T will get out of me with all this energy I have. AT&T sux but that's a different post.

I'm not sure if it improves my mood or not. I'll have to wait a few months until Welbutrin & Effexor withdrawal is done. Maybe I won't be sure until next winter. But It sure gave me energy. The fact that I created this blog is proof.

Commence depression, deep spiraling depression.

My meds, Welbutrin 300 mg & Effexor 150 mg, ran out three(?) weeks ago. My employer switched to a new prescription plan with Caremark. The old plan with Medco warns you when you are getting low but I didn't get anything from Caremark.

In a rush, I went to my shrink for new prescriptions. I also forgot, that on the new plan I have to pay full price for him now. I had him write the two prescriptions for three months worth of meds. I sent the prescriptions to the Caremark and even payed $18 for next day delivery. While checking for a delivery date I discovered Caremark charged me $400. There is no way I can afford that. Medco didn't cost me $400 for two years of the same meds. Commence depression, deep spiraling depression.

I didn't get the meds for about a week after I ordered them. Next day delivery, my ass. When they finally came I discovered they substituted the Welbutrin for generic. Generic Welbutrin doesn't work. I tried it years ago. They are like sugar pills. I threw the pills across the room then wadded the paper work up and threw that too. I then wrote a barely comprehensible flame to Caremark. The meds and Caremark are totally worthless to me. I can't afford $400 every three months plus my psychologists fee. I'm not going to take the batch I just got and go through withdrawal again after I finish them.

Withdrawal started with just dizziness. Then came hot flashes, sleeplessness, nightmares, and mood swings. I have more energy because of the SAD light I got a week earlier but I don't feel like doing anything.

I can't see my psychiatrist anymore or afford any meds of any kind. If I get sick and need meds I plan to die rather than pay Caremark. I may as well die now.

Thursday, April 5, 2007

Suicide note

This blog could also have been called "Suicide Note" instead of "Transgendered Journey". Tonight I was contemplating again what I would put on my note. A simple FTW was a winner but I thought something longer might be appropriate. Besides, I feel a need to lay it all out. If only to the investigating officer. I think I'll go with:



FTW



FTW != For The Win